It is normal to feel a whole range of emotions numbness, disbelief, anger, guilt, pain and yearning for your loved one, panic or fear. Accompanying this may be loss of sleep and inability to concentrate.
All of this is normal and may go on for days or months.
There is nothing that will take away the pain of losing a loved one. However, we know that support following the loss of a loved one is important. The best and most available support is usually that of our family, friends and our communities.
Reading about bereavement can be another source of support. It can help you to realise that what you are experiencing is natural and normal and also help you to understand why you might be responding or experiencing certain things.
If you feel you would like to read more about bereavement, we recommend the following:
The Good Grief Trust Cruse – dealing with bereavement and grief At a loss NHS website – coping with bereavementHelp is available if you need it. If you feel you are struggling and might need some more support we would recommend you speak to your GP.
Supporting children and young people
There is a lot of help available to children and young people who are struggling with bereavement.
The principles of support from family and friends and of having information to help them understand what is happening is just as relevant for children as it is for adults.
However, the age of the child or young person is important to consider. Child bereavement UK has information and videos specific to supporting children of different ages.
Child Bereavement UK Cruse – Children and Young PeopleUseful contacts
Hospital chaplaincy
Telephone: 0191 2336161
Ask for the on-call chaplain available 24 hours a day.
Hospital chaplains are not just there for the religious. They provide supportive care to people of all faith and no faith.
They are trained to provide mental health first aid and are able to refer to other agencies as appropriate.
For information about practical information about what to do after a person has died:
Hospital bereavement officer
Telephone: 0191 223 1146 (Freeman Hospital)
Telephone: 0191 282 4348 (Royal Victoria Infirmary)
Available weekdays 08:30am to 4:30pm
Patient Advice and Liaison Service (PALS)
The Patient Advice and Liaison Service (PALS) can offer on-the-spot advice and information about the NHS.
Freephone: 0800 032 02 02
Email: [email protected]